A little while ago I saw a video on my Facebook page. Its an advertisement for Coca Cola where 6 strangers are put in a dark room, and they get to know each other without seeing what they look like. I think almost everyone reading this judges people on their looks, whether they mean to or not. I wanted to see what it would be like to get to know someone, but without judging them on their looks. Of course, I called my boyfriend in (you must get sick of hearing about him!) We sat opposite each other and closed our eyes, and I asked him to tell me about himself.
He told me about his passions for reading, and animals, and he told me about his struggles with autism and ADHD. He’s trying to write a book. He’s going to University this year to study Psychology. He has a wonderful girlfriend he loves. All of this I already knew, but it was strange, after he’d been talking for a while I started to form a picture in my head of this man. His deep voice made me think he was tall, and strong, perhaps muscly? His love of books and phycology made me think he was dorky, perhaps he looked like a University professor with glasses and a suit. The way he spoke about his girlfriend made me think he was older, he just sounded so mature and he sounded like he honestly thought she was one of the most beautiful and incredible people he has ever met.
Firstly, I now know how my boyfriend talks about me to strangers. And I love it. I think how you speak about someone when they’re not around says a lot about your relationship with them, so it was nice to hear how lovingly he spoke about me.
Then, while my eyes were still closed, he asked me if I would still date him. Honestly, yes. If Kyle had introduced himself to me like this, and I couldn’t see what he looked like, I’d still go on a date with him. His personality was amazing, and I think this made me realise how great a person he truly is. The way he seemed so excited about his passions, and he just seemed so positive about everything. I think I fell in love with him a little bit more that day because I realised that looks were nothing in our relationship. Someday we’ll both be old, and wrinkly, and now I know that even then we’ll still be in love because I’m with someone who is so great to talk to it won’t matter what we look like.
If anyone reading this would like to do this, I definitely say go for it! And if you do, please let me know so I can see how you found it. Thank you for reading.
A friend of mine showed me this video and suggested I make a blog post about it. Twenty seconds in and I had already made up my mind that I had to write about this.
This woman (whose blog you can visit here) posted photos of herself online when she was not wearing make up. The comments she recieved were awful, and phrases such as “revolting” and “ugly” and “gross” were thrown at her. Let’s just get this straight. You are entitled to have an opinion, but if you can’t express this opinion in a polite and respectable manner then please keep it to yourself. Especially about something as personal as someone’s appearance.
The woman in this video has acne. Almost as if she’s a human, right?! As a teenager I have acne. Growing up I had acne pretty bad and I was so self conscious so I used to cover my face in tons of makeup, and I used to have my hair hanging over my face to try and cover them up. Until I just woke up one day and just thought fuck it, I have spots because my body has a ton of chemicals whizzing around and there’s not much I can do about it. So I walked into school with no makeup on and my hair in a ponytail and guess what… no one cared! Please do not feel like you have to wear makeup to feel beautiful, and if you don’t like wearing makeup please don’t feel like you have to to please others.
If you want to wear makeup because you like the way it looks and it makes you happy, then wear it, you’re beautiful! Don’t let anyone tell you what to put on your face.
So here’s a few final words for those reading this:
- If you have spots, you’re beautiful.
- If you don’t have spots, you’re beautiful.
- If you don’t wear makeup, you’re beautiful.
- If you wear makeup, you’re beautiful.
- If you spread love and happiness, you’re beautiful.
- If you’re reading this, you’re hella beautiful. Fact.
Thank you for reading and I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic 🙂
Guys! Stop with all these awards, I can’t handle it (jk, keep ’em coming!) Thank you so, so much to The Crazy Perfectionist for this nomination! EDIT: And a huge thank you to Sweetheart too! Please go check their blogs out, they’re amazing 🙂
Here are the rules:
- Thank the blogger who nominated you. Thank you 🙂
- List seven random things about yourself. Okay you nosey lot, here we go:
- I hate spicy food. Like anything even mildly spicy feels like I’m on fire! So Indian food is pretty much a no go, and Nando’s is torture! I’m not sure why but I like really boring food, I’m quite happy to just eat plain pasta or plain rice. Which means I hate cooking for others because they’re all like “Lets add some rosemary.” and I’m just sitting here like “Hmm, no lets not.”
- I can rollerskate. I’m one of those people who you see going round the rink backwards, doing spins and tricks. Sorry! But in my defense it took 10 years for me to be able to skate as well as I do, and it’s literally the only athletic thing I can do reasonably well so I think I’m allowed to show off a little bit!
- I have a slight addiction to tea. In a lot of my posts I mention that I’m drinking a cup of tea. That is not me trying to be a cute British stereotype, I am genuinely drinking tea at that moment. I probably have about 3-4 cups a day, every day. It used to be worse but I was spending more money of teabags than food, and that was when I realised I had a problem 😛 (And yes, I am drinking a cup of tea right now. But I’ve just woken up, what else am I supposed to do?!)
- I was awarded the “Heart of Gold Award” at college. Everyone got an award, but I’m quite proud of mine. I was voted the kindest girl in our year 🙂 Bonus fact: my boyfriend won the “Heart of Gold Award” for the guys 🙂
- I wear glasses. I’m short sighted, so anything further than my laptop screen is completely blurry. I tend to just leave my glasses in random places around the house, and because they’re black they blend in with everything. So I need my glasses to find my glasses, it’s the never-ending struggle!
- I have a massive family. My dad has 7 siblings, they all have kids. One of them has 13 (yeah, 13!) children and they’ve all got children! But in comparison, my mum has one sister and she’s got 2 children so her side of the family is tiny. In total I have got just over 50 cousins (including 1st, 2nd, 3rd etc.). So when we go out as a family we rent out the entire restaurant!
- When I was 13 I set up my own business. Okay, it was only for two months but my parents stopped my pocket money at that age and I had two months before I started my job delivering papers. So, I brought a box of thread for a £5 from a car boot sale and I made bracelets. I got pretty good at it and learnt different patterns, and then I learnt how to write names on them too. Turns out teenagers love this and I made a profit of just over £50 🙂
To give you an idea of the sort of thing I made 🙂 (These are not my own!!)
- Nominate seven other bloggers: Aw, I think all my followers are beautiful so this is a tough one.
- A Girl With ADHD
- Paradoxical Sadness
- Everything And Nothing
- Diary Reinvented
- Unfashionable Cupcake
- My Irrelevant Thoughts
- My Personal Teen Life
Can’t wait to see your random facts, and thanks for reading x
*Warning: This video may upset some viewers*
This woman weighs 40lb, the weight of my four year old cousin, and she cannot get help from hospitals because she is a “liability”. Please tell me I am not the only one who thinks this is disgraceful. This woman lives in a first world country where the government has no issue with raising their paychecks by a few million, yet they can’t give help to a woman with a severe psychological disorder. This woman will be getting support, but not because the government have seen sense, but because people across the world have donated money to her (http://www.gofundme.com/savemyrachael) and I hope that in a few years time we will see a much happier and healthier Rachael.
However there are still people out there, heck some may even be reading this, who have this disorder. I think weight is such a taboo subject and I think this may have a part in why so many people have eating disorders. If you are on the larger side you are fat, you must just sit around eating all day, you should be ashamed of your body. If you are on the smaller side then you are anorexic, you must only eat salads, you should be ashamed of your body. This is insane! People are not “one size fits all”, and I think that we should promote being healthy and as long as you’re healthy and happy it shouldn’t matter whether you’re a size XXXS or an XXXL.
And to try and encourage you, my beautiful readers, to talk about your body here are my measurements…
- Weight: 10.5 stone (147lb)
- Height: 5ft 3″
- Waist: 29″
- Hips: 38″
- Clothes size: 12
- Shoe size 5
…Because I LOVE my body and you should love yours too! So if you’re feeling brave feel free to comment with your measurements so we can start spreading the love 🙂