Yesterday I wrote a post called The British Tag, which was just a jokey post where I answer questions about my Britishness. I never thought it would lead to me be harassed.
A few minutes after I’d published my post it was rebogged. Yay! Right? So I clicked on the site who had reblogged it and that’s where I saw that the only other posts this person had were pictures of his penis and posts asking people, specifically young British teens, to text him. This made me really uncomfortable, and I didn’t want my post being linked to someone like this. I commented on the post and asked him why he posted it, and if he could take it down, and that he needs to label his content as mature because anyone could visit his site.
He then apologised, and I thought that would be the end of it. Until he sent me three comments in a row asking what I thought of his pictures, and whether I’d be impressed. I felt disgusted. I was Skyping my friend, Zack, at the time and I asked him what to do. He helped me message the guy back and basically we told him to stop. But in the time we had replied to his comment, he had already sent me four more and all of them were asking about my friends and whether my friends were girls and if I knew any teenage girls. At this point I reported him.
I reported him for a few reasons:
- He kept sending me explicit messages/comments on my posts. I won’t post them here but seriously, it was actually disgusting and very threatening.
- His blog was not labelled as mature, so anyone could go on it without verifying their age.
- He had no idea how old I was. I could have been a 10 year old girl for all he knew, and to send me messages asking for me to send/receive explicit images was not okay because although I am a big girl and I can handle it, there are young children on this site and they could be put in upsetting situations through this.
What an awful experience. Sending you support. xx
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Thank you 🙂 I’m just glad it happened to me and not someone younger.
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What he was doing is illegal. He should be reported to the police. Soliciting minors for sex is against the law. Any type of sexual harassment is illegal. Glad you took care of business.
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You’re right, and if he had of continued I would have definitely contacted the police. But I’m just so glad he messaged me, and not someone who was more vulnerable. Thanks for the support 🙂
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That’s nasty omg, and he’s a danger to this site, you were right in reporting him .
I’m so glad you have supportive friends and I’m sorry to hear about what happened in the past 😭 I didn’t know and I’m just happy you’re okay now ❤
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Yeah, I’m just so glad I was the one he messaged with that stuff and not someone younger or more vulnerable.
It happened a long time ago, between the ages of 6-11 so I don’t remember a lot of it thank god. But yeah, with the help of amazing friends, moving on from it and every day I get a bit more confident and that’s awesome 🙂 Thanks for the support!
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Aw , I’m so glad ❤ and you’re welcome xx
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Got the same guy on my comments a couple days ago… reported him for nude content and contact details. The site is now down, thankfully. I got comments asking “are you a teen girl, have a look at my site, other girls love it”. It’s wrong to ask for someone’s age, and all the content on his site was disgusting. I’m so glad it’s been stopped. You did a great job and helped the whole WordPress community, so thank you.
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Yeah, I’ve had him comment on a few of my posts before and I just automatically deleted them. But he’s never reblogged my posts, and to send me really explicit comments was just a step too far. Thank you so much for your support! I’m so glad he can’t message someone who might be more vulnerable.
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Good that you took action. You go girl.
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Thank you!!
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I’m glad you stood strong and got rid of him 🙂
There’s some real creeps out there
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Unfortunately there are 😦 But I’m glad there’s now one less creepy guy on here 🙂
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Hugs! I think you did the right thing. Also, how does one mark their blog as mature? I have a note on my first post that is kept at the top of my blog. Also any time I post more adult content I put that in the title. I don’t post often adult content. Though I would like to make my blog marked as mature as a precaution.
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You can either contact WordPress, but you can also report your own blog as “mature”. So go to your blog, then in the top left hand corner there will be a “my site” button, hover over it and press “report content” then report it as mature. You won’t be banned, but WordPress will know that you’ll be posting adult content. However, if you need more support look at the wordpress support forums or talk to them and I’m sure they’ll be happy to help 🙂
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Thank you! 🙂
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He was posting on my blog and a load of others so we gave him the name creepy naked guy. It suited him
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Oh my gosh, so that’s what your question was about in your award post?! Yeah he’s posted on my posts a few times, and I just ignored it. But he’d never sent me explicit stuff (and I mean, like extremely disgusting stuff) until now and I think that just really crossed the line. But don’t worry, he can’t message us anymore! I feel like a superhero 😛
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Yayyyy
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Looks like you handed it well but people like him genuinely disgust me. I’m glad you reported him.
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Thank you, I’m just glad I had back up 🙂 Same here, I’m just glad his blog is deleted and hopefully he won’t be back any time soon!
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Let’s all hope. And it’s good to have our friends to support us when things like this pop up
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Reblogged this on tieganslife and commented:
People like this guy need to stop existing on WordPress cause it’s not okay.
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Thank you so much for spreading the word 🙂 And you’re right! People on WordPress are entitled to their opinions and lifestyles, but when this could be dangerous and considered harassment, it crosses a line. I’m so glad he’s off WordPress now 🙂
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WTF? Unbelievable. Glad you got a little bit of retribution. Shame that scum like that will just find another stone to slime under. Well done though. (Fellow British blogger.)
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I am so sorry that you had to go through this. The Internet can be the most supportive caring place to share with others and then it can be downright scary, intimidating and harassing. A double edged sword. Glad you were able to take control of the situation and do the right thing and get the right result.. shutting him down. Good that you shared your experience with others as well who might not know what to do if it happened to them.
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Thank you for the support 🙂 And you’re right, it’s such a shame people like him exist, but everyone else I’ve met on here have been lovely 🙂
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I think teenagelunatics ran into that guy, too. She put him in his place for sure. Sorry you had to deal with that, girlies! Thanks for taking care of him for the rest of us!
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Haha, yay for girl power!
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I guess the person you are talking about is the same whose posts I had encountered while seeing the posts of #High School tags in my reader. And that was really disgusting because people who are not searching for those things encounter them and nobody else has any idea whether the person unknowingly encountering such things may get Mentally Disturbed. Everybody surely can’t handle it. We all know many of us are teens , most of us growing into mature individuals and are in the most critical point of our lives…… when out of all the mess of our lives, we are trying to do something good by managing our blogs with excellent contents, such people throw trash in our minds when we are still trying hard to remove other trashes from our minds.!
Really disgusting!
And yes, of course, it was really good of you and your friend…….. Great job guys!
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Probably, I’ve seen his posts before in the “teen” tags and I agree that’s not okay because people who are looking in these tags are not looking for naked pictures! I couldn’t agree more, it is disgusting and I’m so glad there’s one less person on here who thinks that posting these sorts of things is okay. Thank you!
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Aw, I was harassed on a different site. The guy was saying (it was a chat room in a video game) that women can’t be president and that gays are idiots and all this terrible stuff. When I told him I reported him, he started messaging me directly all this awful stuff. Thankfully I was able to report him!
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I’m sorry to hear that, but you did the right thing in reporting him. Did he stop after that? As soon as I threatened the guy with the police he shut his site down, what a coward.
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I’m not sure because I was able to use a feature to ignore all of his comments.
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Ah okay, at least you didn’t hear from him anymore. That’s good 🙂
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Yeah, I just hope it doesn’t happen to anyone else
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That’s terrible. I hope no one else has to go through that.
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So do I.
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Man that dude was disgusting. He told me I’d enjoy his site- I’m an asexual lesbian, so that was gross as shit for me
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Oh dude, that must have been traumatising! It was pretty gross for me too, I mean it wasn’t even a nice dick pic! Disappointing 😛
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Lmao standards
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Haha, too right 😛
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You shoulda told him his dick looked like a flaccid slice of ham
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Pfftt, my boyfriend just looked over my shoulder, saw your comment, and asked if it was about him. I told him it was and now he’s sulking in the arm chair. I’m so mean to him sometimes 😛 And I totally wish I could have said that, damnit I missed my chance!
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Aw man, tell your boyfriend that his… Oh god there is no nice way of saying that. Yep no, just buy him cola.
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Haha, bless him 😛 I told him the truth and he went back to acting all macho and manly. Guys… I will never understand them!
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D’aww xD That’s good
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Ew ew ew ew. You handled the situation perfectly. I’m glad you reported him, I hope I never accidentally click on his site. I hope this never happens to you again! 😷😷😷😷
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Thank you, and he’s now deleted his site so he can’t bother anyone again 🙂
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WIN. 👍
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That’s terrible! I’ve only ever heard of blogs and social media like that, never seen them, but I’m glad it got taken down! Sorry you had that happen to you as well.
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I’m so glad it was taken down too, and thanks you for the support 🙂
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You’re an absolute life-saver. It sounds absolutely terrifying – I was put off coming online for a bit tbh. Thank you so much.
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Oh no, it’s such a shame that people like him can effect so many people 😦
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God that’s terrible. I’m glad it ended well! This is really disturbing, glad it got taken down!
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Thank you for the support, I’m so glad it got taken down too!
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Reblogged this on GUM: Growing up Millennial.
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Oh my goodness! How horrible that this has happened on wordpress! I got this on another site from people for a while (and it was a site that was 18+ but it was still really intrusive and disturbing – I don’t think it’s ever appropriate). I hope he gets banned but I guess there’s nothing stopping him doing it again under a new email adddress. I block people for a number of reasons, and I do separate my blogs out into two blogs so anything even potentially adult goes on my second blog; although I reblog sometimes with a Trigger Warning (TW) or Not Safe For Work label (NSFW).
Often I block people who swamp my wordpress reader with posts literally every 30 seconds for hours on end, because unfollowing sometimes leaves their posts in my reader, but I’ve never had to report anyone.
I hope you’re okay and that you’re getting lots of support from people around you, this sort of thing should never happen and I am always amazed that wordpress is very quick to pick up an accidental incorrect affiliate link (I had my blog suspended over one in the time it took me to click “edit” and try and fix it once, and I had to email them 3 times to get reinstated) and yet they don’t have software that can detect explicit content that hasn’t been labelled as such, they wait until the damage has been done.
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Yeah, I hate getting messages like this and it’s such a shame it’s happened on this site. Oh wow, I’m surprised they blocked your account because of that! I really hope he doesn’t come back on this site. Thank you for your support 🙂
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Can I just say – thank you. Oh my god, thank you. I know exactly who this person is; I’ve had him commenting on my posts several times, and so have many of my blogging friends. He’s been coming back several times after being reported. It’s awful how people do this, because it’s unwanted, dangerous, and abusive.
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I’m so surprised at how many people he’s actually messages and how many times he’s been reported! He’s even commented on my posts a few times, but he’s never sent me explicit messages before which is why I threatened to call the police on him. As soon as I said that he deleted his account, people like that are just cowards!
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Exactly! Did he send you messages on the comments, or by email?
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He commented first, then emailed me 😦
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URGH! 😦 I just don’t get why people would do that.
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